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The one bit I'd throw out in counterpoint to your portion regarding that section 4.2, and teaching consent to children as young as five, is that I actually *agree* that it's important to teach children that they can *withhold* that consent. I think too many children are taught (likely as part of getting past that stage where even things they actually *want* get a reflexive "No!") that they're not allowed to say no to an adult. And I think we need to teach them that it can, in fact, be acceptable to say no to an adult. In particular, in situations involving sexuality.

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"No means no" goes a long way. We taught our son when he was a wee kid starting kindergarten that no-one may touch you like "that", and that he is to follow no-one but us home from anywhere, and to scream for help as loud as he could if anyone tried to grab him.

Vetting of staff for all positions where you work close to children/minors should be mandatory - it is here, has been since the mid-1990s. And the employer ought to be given the full legal responsibility: hire a pedo, go to jail, basically.

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Indeed. It doesn't have to be a *complicated* lesson, but children do need to know that there are legitimate circumstances under which "no" is acceptable, and Mom and Dad will back them up on that. And I realize I'm being fairly pedantic. But the lesson of "consent" is that you can both *give* consent, and *withhold* consent.

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