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I'm currently being punished for wanting to stand up for my rights. My wife has been giving me the silent treatment because in one of the few remaining places in Alabama that still requires masks, this is where she chooses to buy glasses. We've also had a few arguments about policy and the effectiveness of the tyranny which really changed my view of her when she decided to marginalize me because I don't work in health care like she does and so I don't see the people she sees struggling to breathe (on a vent without any other treatments besides the Rem, which she also thinks works "when given to the right patients who will respond to it" {very similar to "it would have been worse if they were unvaxxed"}). She must discount that I worked through 2020 as a deputy sheriff, INSIDE the county jail no less, and that we both caught it and recovered together.

She knew my position going in and that I had in fact been willing previously to "wear the disguise" (of a believer) to get basic services, but this time she didn't ask, and so when the little girl behind the counter asked me to wait in the car, I didn't argue or make a scene, I just left. She never sent me a text to ask me to come back in with a mask from the car to help her pick the frames she wanted and which I actually expected her to do after getting the exam.

She just came back to the car pissed at me because I wouldn't be bullied into doing something I don't want to do. It's been five days now and even though we are talking again, I haven't heard an "I love you" nor touched except for when I have ambushed her with a hug since. She just lost a close family member (also a healthcare worker and Triple jabbed) to "covid" (who was stubborn enough to just stay at home and suffer even though she was in her early 70s, and never took our or her sister's advice to contact the Frontline doctors to get an at home treatment of Hyd or Ivr). When she was admitted to the hospital, my wife actually said that it would have been worse if she was unvaxxed... And blew up at me then for asking whether she had been vaxxed. (This was "The most insulting thing you've ever said to me or my family". Later that night she sadly died. Overwhelmed by bloodclots...

So now I'm here and pretty despondent. I don't have anyone to actually lean on IRL so I'm venting here and am just wondering what is happening in the world today...My wife is no modern left leaning liberal. She's such a study of history, one of her favorite past times is binge watching documentaries about Hitler and the Nazis. Yet here is a lady that is asking me to drop my principles and just comply. (I'm also a military retiree so this is definitely not natural.)

What is happening to people? And sure, I'll take any advice on my situation...

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I am so sorry. I personally think you did the right thing. It sounds as though you handled the situation graciously, not killing the messenger or trying to make your wife leave with you.

I cannot imagine why she would expect you to do something against your principles. Maybe she feels guilty for not being able to save her family member and is taking it out on you. The only way you can ever know her thought process for sure is to ask her.

My husband is vaxed and wears an N95 mask in high-density places, but he has terminal cancer. We have friends and family who are horrified that I am not vaxed and will not wear a mask, as though I am going to kill him. We both got covid and recovered just fine. His vaxed self had worse symptoms than my unvaxed self, and he had it first and gave it to me, yet no one was horrified on my behalf, go figure. To his credit, he has never once asked me to either get the shots or to wear a mask, and he doesn't ask me to go places where the management mandates masks or vaxes for their staff, knowing that it is against my principles. For my part, I have never given him a hard time for making the choices that he made, either.

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You might grow a pair and start acting like a man instead of like a whipped poltroon.

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Sadly, for many at this point it's sort of like waiting for the junkie to hit rock bottom before they decide they actually want help. Until they decide they want to question things, they won't, and they will hate you for making them. My only advice is to be patient but firm. You're already recovered. There's no need to play along with the pandemic theater. Surely shopping for glasses isn't more dangerous than other things you do maskless? If she's not asking questions after losing a triple-jabbed family member, maybe she won't ask until this is all over and the 'experts' sound the all-clear.

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If your wife has recently lost a close family member, she's going to be distraught and not entirely herself. I only ever lost one close family member and that was decades ago, but I clearly remember not being myself for several weeks. Giver her time.

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That is my current tactic, but I fear that if relief does not come soon, we'll just drift further apart. I realize that I'm really easy to blame for all of this, but she's not the fighter, I am. That's what makes us complementary. But if she wants me to not stand up for her rights, then we're both weaker... She's been conditioned to think I'm being selfish for this, and of course, I won't be able to break that spell... Sadly, eventually, it seems, I'll have to admit that this is unsustainable.

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My heart goes out to you. It is amazing that seemingly intelligent people have fallen for this so completely.

As she works in healthcare then I suspect your options to awaken her are very limited, but maybe is she was willing to view the two senate hearings by Ron Johnson, the videos by Byram Bridle or Charles Hoffe, or even the Bret Weinstein videos with Steve Kirsch and Robert Malone, she might see where you are coming from.

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That's what is so odd. She knows that masks don't work, even in surgery she admits that they're just to protect against blood and other fluids being squirted on them during a procedure. She realizes that the lock downs were useless except to allow us to get to our jobs faster. She did at first take up for Cuomo of all people for the nursing home policy because she still believed the government at the time. She realizes that the establishment is hiding effective treatment from us but doesn't want to criticize the hospital for neglecting those treatments. The more I think about it, the more it seems that she just wants to live in her own little bubble where everything is rainbows and she'll be left alone to be happy if she just doesn't think about it. I don't have an answer to that if she doesn't want to drop out of society and live with me somewhere in the mountains of Idaho or something...

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Dr Mattias Desmet says it’s mass formation psychosis. Not to be insulting or anything - you have my highest regards. There’s also cognitive dissonance at play as well. You know what I mean. You’re an informed guy. Some people just have the inability to see this for what it is - at their core they cannot see what is happening because they cannot accept what is truly happening, so they live in that “bubble” as you describe.

My wife’s family is this way. We’re both detail-oriented researchers and maybe just wired different than her family. All are vaxxed except one of her twin sisters. I hate to say it but once people have internally chosen what to believe it’s a hard row to hoe to get them to see anything else.

I think I’d agree with one person’s take - binge watch Dr Peter McCullough and Dr Robert Malone and Senator Ron Johnson’s senate vaccine trials. My own mother is a nurse and thinks the vents and rem are the way to treat it too, so I can sympathize with you. I think all the videos and info I’ve fed her just ticked her off. Because she’s a nurse you know. And knows so much more than me, so how dare I question her. And she changed my diaper of course, so there’s no talking to her.

Best wishes my friend.

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Maybe she is just mentally overwhelmed and has to simplify things in her head.

I suspect we can all relate to that at times.

The figures behind this evil should hang for what they've done to people.

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Sorry for the run on sentences, I blame stream of consciousness..

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